By Dr. Ken Broda-Bahm:
Apologies are very much in vogue. If you accidentally run your cruise ship aground, or surreptitiously wiretap phones in order to discover great newspaper stories, then it has become a well-known next step in the script to make a public apology. The shamed politician, loose-lipped celebrity, and the guilty criminal all recognize the value in facing the music and taking their lumps. We've written in the past that apologies figure prominently in civil litigation, as well as sometimes draining away some of the anger that motivates a suit, leading to a more favorable result in settlement or to lower damages in trial. For a defendant facing the likelihood of at least some liability, it is worth thinking about whether a timely "I'm sorry" might lead to an improvement.
But all apologies are not created equal. In fact, one interesting study reveals that there are multiple ways to make a fake apology. When "I'm sorry" isn't sincere, jurors may catch on. Even where apologies are sincere, they are not necessarily wise. While there are some circumstances that make an apology strategic, there are other circumstances where, true to lawyers' common concern, an apology can end up falling flat, just opening you up to a larger verdict.
This post takes a fresh look at apologies, considering the fake and the fatal, as well as the circumstances that make a sincere apology a good idea.



